My journey is profoundly shaped by my parents’ past; my father survived the Khmer Rouge regime in Cambodia while my mother escaped from Vietnam. Their stories of resilience and silent sacrifices are not merely historical narratives. Rather, they form the foundation of my existence and have taught me the true meaning of resilience and the value of silent sacrifices.
In our Asian family, mental health discussions were often overshadowed by a relentless expectation to succeed, a duty seen as honouring the hardships my parents endured. This pressure, while motivated by love, sometimes felt like an insurmountable burden that blurred the distinction between encouragement and unhealthy expectations.
In law school, this translated into a relentless drive for perfectionism. Striving for excellence in academics, managing a small business, leading clubs, and securing a summer job – these endeavours, reflecting my parents’ resilience, often led me to question the impact of such unyielding pursuits on my mental health.
I’ve realised the trauma my parents faced need not be a burden I carry alone. Addressing mental health, particularly within Asian cultures, is critical not just for personal healing but for breaking cycles for future generations. It’s about balancing respect for my heritage while acknowledging and addressing my mental health needs.
This self-discovery journey has taught me that success isn’t measured solely by achievements but by the wholeness of our being. I’m learning to redefine my goals and ambitions, understanding they need not be shaped by my parents’ expectations or my fears of inadequacy, but rather my own values and aspirations.
By learning to accept imperfection, I am now on a path that values the journey itself. This challenging yet necessary involves shaping a narrative that balances mental health and personal fulfilment with professional goals. I move forward, honouring my parents’ legacy while forging a path that’s authentically mine.
I share my story to highlight the importance of mental health resources, particularly for law students facing similar challenges. At Osgoode, the Peer Support Centre provides a space for empathetic guidance. Our school’s counselling services, both in-person and online, offer tailored professional support. Ontario’s new suicide prevention number, 988, is another vital resource for those in crisis. By advocating for these resources, my goal is to cultivate a culture where seeking help is normalised and supported. It’s crucial for our community to look out for one another and prioritise mental health as much as academic and professional success.